Wednesday, April 28, 2010


Mother's Day...a time when we pull back to really focus on Mom and the legacy she offers. I wanted to share a little bit about the lovely ladies in my life and the blessings they have so greatly given.

I have the pleasure of sharing living quarters with mine and even though our space can get pretty small, pretty fast, we're doing just fine. The picture above reminds me of the many talks and times shared enjoying God's beautiful nature.

Mom and I moved in together many years ago to ease the financial challenge of caring for my Grandmother. What was a necessity at the time, turned into a huge blessing later down the road. You see, Mom and I have always had this up and down relationship. I don't even want to mention the teenage years! She handed down "The Mother's Curse" long ago..."I hope you have a daughter just like you some day...then you'll understand." My word! I hope that one passes me by! We love each other, but can drive each other crazy in the same breath. I suppose it's like that with all Moms and Daughters.

Years later Grandmother moved in and joined our household of merriment after being unable to live on her own. Now, for three head strong and independent women, this was no easy task. Mom and I experienced our own moments of butting heads because she has one way of doing things and I have another...and now an additional woman with the same stubborn streak was entering the space. Oh my!

But something magical happened while these three generations of women were living under the same roof. Grandmother and I talked like we had never talked before. She began to share things never touched in the past. It gave me an awesome view through the window of her eyes and I began to see both my Mother and Grandmother for the women they were...flawed, beautiful, inspiring strong women who made good choices as well as bad ones just like everyone else. I took notice of the legacy offered by each one...the many, many lessons to be learned from their walk down life's pathway.

Grandmother had the uncanny ability to lighten the very energy of a room with her presence. She saw the heart of people and loved others no matter how she was treated. She embraced life with gusto and could laugh with a passion like I've never seen!! Grandmother had the best sense of humor and wasn't afraid to show it! If you didn't have a good belly laugh at least once every other day around her, you weren't paying attention! She lived with grace, honor, courage and love.

Mom is just like Grandmother in so many ways. That same energy of love and grace abounds and you feel warmer just sharing the same space! I feel so lucky to have the Mom I do...she's an open book, not afraid to admit her mistakes, loves to make the simple, everyday things special and cares for others with an unconditional love that could only compare to the saints (: She's also a hoot to hang around! Don't get us out in public when we're tired, because the laughter at absolutely nothing won't stop until one of us falls over!

Yes, she's fun and wild and I've been so blessed to spend the last few years really getting to know her.So as this special time of Mother's Day approaches, I thank these beautiful, strong women for loving me, supporting me, inspiring me, guiding me, for being the incredible women that they are and for being my best friends!!

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  1. Beautiful are SO blessed to have such a close, loving relationship!

  2. I read this yesterday and came back to read it once more. What a special family you have - a house full of strong women sharing, and living, and laughing.
    I had very much the same relationship with my Grandmother before she passed as did my Mom with her. You reminded me of some dear memories, thank you :)
    I completely relate as I am with my Mom at least every other day and we have finally decided that it will be easier to finally live together. She is my best friend, the one I run and lean on, the one I trust my children to, and I cherish our relationship.

    You are blessed.

    Wishing you a beautiful day ahead dear friend and a happy Mother's Day to your Mom.

  3. Nice post. I dread Mother's Day. It will be the first one without my mother. She passed away July 25, 2009 after battling cancer for a year.

  4. What a sweet picture you paint. Mothering is such a vibrant endeavor. Our moms continue to fuel us! I love that!
    I'm so glad you popped in to say hi. I'm happy to know about you!
    I see on your profile that you say you are a procrastinator. Me, too. The other day one of my fourteen year old students called herself a "procrasti-faker" and now I love saying that word! Smile.

  5. What a beautiful realtionship you have with your mother! Although inter-generational living strikes many people as odd, I don't think that it is. It was the norm for a long time and I think as housing prices continue to go up, it will become the norm again. And I think that's a good thing. Independence is important, but so is family and taking care of one another.

  6. As a weird additional note...the verification word that I had to type in order to post my first comment was "mater," the latin word for "mother." What are the odds! :)

  7. That is so sweet and special. Sometimes I wish I'd have to live with my mom and grandmother so I could build a relationship with them before the chance is gone. It could be tricky at times though.


  8. Beautiful post, beautiful picture. Thanks for stopping by my blog :)

  9. Linda, thank you so much for stopping by and Happy Mother's Day to you(:

    Sari, I'll pass along Mother's Day wishes to Mom (: You have a happy one too with wishes to your Mom as well (sounds like our mother's might have a ball getting together).

  10. Joan, I'm so sorry to hear of your Mom's passing. That first Mother's Day can be the hardest. I know when Grandmother passed away Mother's Day was hard for Mom...for me too, but especially for Mom. That year we didn't celebrate Mother's Day. I just stayed close by, offered hugs when she needed them and space when she needed to be alone. Just know I'm praying for you. If you need a soft place to fall and someone to listen, I'm here. Just let me know and I'll call (:

  11. Courtney, I agree with you! It used to be commonplace for generations to live under the same roof. It wasn't easy for first few years, but it did bring us closer together and gave us the time to rub the rough edges off our relationship (:

    That was too cool about the "mater" verification word!! Little God wink there (; Thanks for passing that along!

    Lisa, tricky is the key word there (: There have been days when I was ready to move out and then others when Mom felt like flying out the door...but we hung in there and I wouldn't have traded those crazy times for anything!

  12. Hi Marcia! My pleasure (: I appreciate you stopping by mine. Happy Mother's day to you!

    Hey Rosie!! Hope you have an awesome Mother's Day too!!


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